Get Ripped & Stay Ripped – Insights From Women: Part 3
So this is going to be the third (and probably final) edition in this series, where we look at the difficult journey Whitney has faced throughout her whole life; oscillating between not-too-fat and extremely obese, with severe eating disorders and the inability to take responsibility for her actions. Read parts one and two first so it all makes sense.
My objective with this series was always to look into the mindsets involved behind this scary problem, and to help readers to steer well clear of these damaging mindsets. Do you want to be life-threateningly obese? Didn’t think so. Therefore it makes perfect sense to learn a few lessons and I think a lot of success with fitness comes from learning what not to do.
Feelings and emotions are great, but when we’re talking serious business (i.e. life and death) they only get in the way. So let’s keep feelings and emotions out of this if we want to actually have some level of success with fitness – including:
- Great health
- An awesome physique
- Solid, attraction-based relationships, and ultimately;
- A fantastic life
It’s funny really, as on other forums (more male dominated) I’ve been called a “wuss” and x, y and z for having a less extreme and more moderate dieting approach. “Stop being such a pussy” they cry. But then when faced with the opposite side of the spectrum, I’m a “harsh prick” with “no regard for people’s feelings”. People will always be irrational, emotional and will adamantly defend their own biases and experiences. I will continue to do my thing and give you the objective truth regardless.
Anyway, here’s part three…
Today I’m going to diverge away from the YouTube video linked in part one, and towards other sources. These other sources give a little more information in regards to her psychology and the actual physical dieting strategies she implements (I should have linked these in part one to give readers more background information on her, so apologies for that).
Very, very interesting stuff, as it backs up what I’ve been saying for years. The dieting strategies she implemented were of course horrendous.
Back in part one at the very start, I highlighted the very first problem she had when she was ten years old in the locker room. It was when the girls were weighing themselves. Some of the other girls shamed Whitney for what you would assume to be for being fat.
But she wasn’t fat. At all. (She revealed a picture of her ten year old self on the screen at the Ted Talk.)
This should ring a few major alarm bells, guys. Why would you feel shame about your weight when you look good? This is a mental problem, which has become exacerbated over time. Her obesity problem is 100% mindset. It’s not chuffing insulin resistance. It’s a mindset problem that revolves around shame, and simply put; a severe lack of self-confidence and self-love.
How Not To Approach Long-Term Fat Loss
Okay, so I’m going to go through different sources one by one and have a look at some of the problems with Whitney’s approach to weight loss and dieting.
In this article:
She also reminds her fans that being skinny does not mean you are going to be happy. “Most of my adult life consisted of dramatic weight gain, a PCOS diagnosis, self-loathing, and a non-stop desire to lose weight and be this girl again — until I realized how insane this was,” she added. “I know because I’ve lived it, that thinness does not equal happiness and it does not equal physical or mental health.”
It’s true – being thin doesn’t guarantee anything. No ONE thing guarantees anything, as happiness is multi-faceted. In any given time in your life, your happiness is going to be the sum of the key areas to you (of which there are several).
But this isn’t an excuse to be enormous!
It’s like a poor beggar on the street saying “Well money can’t buy happiness, that’s why I’m choosing to be poor”. The logic and the denial is amazing.
The take-away from this article is to never, EVER justify your shockingly bad circumstances using irrational nonsense. Either in terms of physical health, appearance, money, mental health, relationships, sex life, family life, lack of purpose, whatever. Stop making excuses, and start seeking solutions!
But overall, I agree that she needs to focus on the mental issues, not just weight loss (neither of which she has any intention of doing, by the way, as you’ll find out shortly).
In this article:
‘My Big Fat Fabulous Life’ Star Whitney Thore Wants Fans to Stop Obsessing Over Her Weight…
Well, the only reason you became semi-famous was because of your weight. What do you expect?
“Every day I simultaneously see people saying I’ve lost SO MUCH weight or saying the opposite, speculating that I weigh 500 [pounds]. It seems that if a fat person doesn’t get considerably smaller, y’all are confused — because that’s what every fat person’s priority is, right? And if we’re not getting smaller we MUST be getting bigger?”
Whitney made it very clear that fans or haters should not be concerned with how much she weighs, but she said she kind of understands that it’s less of an obsession with her body and more of just a projection of that person’s own feelings about their body or weight.
Again, she’s trying to deflect blame from herself and onto other people. “It’s not me that’s the problem, it’s just a reflection of you and your own insecurities”.
No, Darling. No it’s not. Keep telling yourself that and you’ll live a very short and deluded life. It’s more of a reflection of their personal optimism/pessimism in general, not how they feel about themselves.
If I assumed you’d gained a bit of weight, do you really think that this is a reflection of my negative self-worth and my insecurities? Honestly? From a guy with ridiculous self-confidence? I don’t think so. I think it’s probably because you look like you’ve gained weight. Seems too simple to be true doesn’t it?
Do you think the fat girl in the gym who asks if you’ve lost weight is reflecting her super-high levels of self-love? No, get real. She’s just trying to be nice and/or hoping for a compliment in return.
Take-away: Stop shifting blame from yourself and onto other people. If you have problems, other people didn’t create them. You did.
“I told Whitney “weight loss is not a behavior” because we cannot control what the scale does in reaction to eating, exercise, and self care habits. Behaviors = the food we choose and the way we move our body.”
This is coming from a Dietician, you know, someone who is supposed to help with this stuff. You can’t control daily fluctuations, I agree. But over the weeks? The months? The years? Uhhhhhhhh…
I think you can, my love.
To tell any poor client of yours otherwise is NOT HELPING THEM. You think you’re being “supportive”, but you’re making the external locus of control even worse!
“Good versus bad food ideas relate to morality. I teach my children and my clients the only bad foods are the ones we steal. If you pay for it, it is good. I think it is easy to call a food good or bad yet it is inaccurate. Stop using lazy terms and go for accuracy.”
“Relating food to morality harms our ways of relating to food. This is especially true for children. Those genetically predisposed to eating disorders learn this cognitive distortion and can find an eating disorder waiting eagerly around the corner.”
100% agreed. I have no idea why “mature” adults relate food to morality. Unbelievably immature, and even years ago when I first got started with this “fitness stuff” I never really understood it. I could see that it was asking for trouble.
Now, it gets interesting…
“Eating less is not better!
Eat less often or fewer calories has been twisted to equal healthy for everyone. As I mention in My Big Fat Fabulous Life, eating too little is harmful. Keep in mind:
- Every binge starts with not eating enough earlier.←Tweet this Don’t blame the “tempting” food or a lack of willpower. Binge eating starts with a diet and overly restrictive eating habits.
- Eating infrequently stresses out our body. I explain to Whitney that it makes our body go into a starvation mode. This means it taps into primal brain communication demanding us to eat and EAT NOW! This will feel out of control or binge like. It isn’t in reality. It is just being human. More here.
- Eating infrequently sets up the body to want to binge which then pummels our body with glucose then insulin. These spikes are exhausting to our physiology. Insulin and blood sugar spikes hurt body systems like blood vessels. And, the more insulin spikes, the more weight goes up since insulin is a growth hormone. So if you aren’t interested in gaining more weight, stop dieting. Restriction/dieting predicts weight gain. ←Tweet this Skeptical? That’s ok. Learn more here.”
Eating less is absolutely, 100%, categorically better, as long as you don’t take it too far.
Or, you could just choose to ignore me, and continue to live a life of low self-love, poor health and lonliness (again, we’ll get to the lonliness bit soon).
Overly restrictive eating habits are really bad, end of story. You’re correct. But at the same time, if you never eat less, and you never get your ass into a calorie deficit, you will NEVER LOSE WEIGHT!
Then she goes into “starvation mode” and now Sweetheart, any level of respect for you I once had has now disappeared. No Dietician seriously talks about “starvation mode”.
A 300+ pound human in starvation mode? Oh Christ (laughing once again as I type), spare me. There is no such thing as starvation mode. Holy moly, how are we sill talking about this in 2018? I thought the research on this was clear. Yes, metabolic slowdow. Yes, you won’t be able to stick to the deficit (the most important factor, by far!). But starvation mode? No.
If you’re in true starvation mode, you’re starving. When you’re starving, you’re becoming dangerously lean. Y’know, less than 7% body fat. Y’know, quite a bit leaner than me.
300+ pound people in starvation mode? Oh stop, please. I can’t take it any more (chuckle).
Now, if you jump into a HUGE deficit (which I’m sure Whitney has done), and you leap into an infrequent eating pattern (which I’m sure Whitney has done), then yes, you’re asking for trouble. That is a clear sign of mental instabilty.
- Be aware of Politically Correct Doctors and Dieticians. I’m not saying all, or even most are like this, but the ones consulting Whitney clearly are.
- Eating less is better, provided you don’t starve yourself, or jump into radical diet changes; do them slowly.
- There is no such thing as “starvation mode”, only poor dieting strategies combined with insufficient willpower.
- You CAN control the scale, if not daily, then week to week.
Then we have this forum, which in its’ responses, has a little more refreshing common sense and objectivity:
“I lost 100 pounds in 8 months by obessively exercising, denying my body proper nourishment, and pingeing/purging once a week. It “worked.” I lost weight. And I gained ll the weight back (and more) within a year. THAT is what diet culture does to us.”
No, Honey. “Dieting Culture” (whatever the hell that is) did not do this to you. Again, you’re all about society, culture and really, you want a social revolution. You will never verbally say this, but I’m aware that this is exactly what you desire. I know people like you all too well and your deepest intentions are incredibly malevolent. I really couldn’t care less if you’re selling your views as “being the victim”, and I don’t care if you appeal to people’s emotions. Your intentions are not in people’s best interests AT ALL.
But back to “Dieting Culture” (haha), no, YOU did this to you. Your gym instructor never told you to starve yourself, nor did I, nor did your ex-boyfriend. YOU DID THIS.
But yes, you’re correct; a calorie deficit makes you lose weight, as I’ve been saying for years. But if you starve yourself, you won’t keep it up over the long-haul. I’m surprised you managed eight months to be fair – well done.
Take-away: Culture and society are not to blame. YOU ARE.
In this video:
I don’t really know what to say to be honest, just watch it in amazement.
Take-away: You know you’re “stress eating”, and therefore, you must be simultaneously aware that you have a mental problem. Stop blaming society.
Actually, watching the video fully, I’m amazed. Someone actually called her out on her bullshit. When she was making excuses for not exercising and talking about a bad back, the gym coach said “But that has nothing to do with the food”. What was her response?
“Don’t put that on me right now” and walks off crying. Crying, bitching and moaning achieves nothing. As I’ve said before.
Finally, this article:
On an Instagram post…
“She went on to say that before judging her so harshly, people should take into account all the details of her life that she doesn’t necessarily share on social media. For instance, she explains that she has several food issues that make it hard for her to lose weight.
“For those of you who speculate about my eating habits, I’ll give you this,” Thore said, noting all of her dietary problems. “I used to struggle with disordered eating, both purging (but not traditional ‘bingeing’; I used to purge regular meals), as well as restricting (eating as little as a few hundred calories a day for months at a time). The last time I engaged in either of these behaviors was in 2011 when I lost 100 pounds and—ironically—everyone thought I was so healthy,” she said. (Related: What to Do If Your Friend Has an Eating Disorder)
Thore also shared that she suffers from polycystic ovary syndrome, or PCOS, a common endocrine disorder that can cause infertility and mess with your hormones.”
NOOOOOO! For heaven’s sake, when will you learn? PCOS didn’t make you fat. Insulin Resistance didn’t make you fat. FOOD MADE YOU FAT. Too much of it!
Stop making excuses! It’s your mindset that ultimately is WAYY off. This is your action plan to success:
- Sort your mindset out (take responsibility)
- Set small goals
- Conquer the small goals
- Set slightly larger goals
- Conquer slightly larger goals
- Continue this pattern….forever
But who am I kidding, you will never do any of this because you would rather bitch and complain. Oh well.
And while you’re at it, stop going from one extreme to the other. Honey, there is a middle ground – a modest calorie deficit. If you use your pre-frontal cortex then you can figure this crap out; it’s not too difficult. Stick to it, instead of going from “stress-eating” to what you call “diet culture”. Use your common sense instead.
If I was to simplify this devastating problem in one sentence, it would be this:
Having an external locus of control. Your life is 100% in your hands, and if you have problems, it’s your fault.
Let’s take me as an example: I don’t have as much money as I want. In an absolute sense, my financial situation is poor. It is rapidly, and I mean rapidly improving in a relative, longitudinal sense, but it’s still poor in absolute terms.
Whose fault is this? The government? My parents? Society? No. It’s MY FAULT. Nobody else’s. It IS MY FAULT THAT I DON’T HAVE AS MUCH MONEY AS I WANT.
You want to know why it’s my fault?
- I made the mistake of going to University years ago and going into a hefty sum of debt. Until I pay this off (and I will – mark my words), I’m enslaved to the UK government (which is just what they wanted – I chose to fall into their trap; I was naive).
- Because I spent three years spending money whilst simultaneously not actually making any money or achieving anything, I sacrificed a three year opportunity cost which could have been spent rapidly improving my career.
Now, although that paints a negative picture, all is not doom and gloom. You know why? Because I don’t sit around moaning, bitching and crying. I’m working my ass off to make up for my mistakes. Because I have no choice. If you want something, you have to work. Play to win or be miserable.
I play to win.
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