Get Ripped And Stay Ripped – Insights From Women: Part 2
Read part one here, if you haven’t already. Okay, here’s part two:
I really am trying to be nice to Whitney, but I’m starting to lose my patience. Sure, you can’t control what you experienced during childhood. You can’t control what happened to you as a kid. Nobody should ever be verbally abused because of their appearance, and anyone who has had this does have my empathy. Everyone needs to have a certain amount of self-love, and bullying (often) destroys that. Certain people do prey on weakness as they “get off” on the temporary feelings of domineering over someone else, and it’s not good.
But as an adult, you can absolutely control your responses to the external world. It’s actually what separates a mature adult from a wild animal. It’s called the prefrontal cortex; use it, Honey.
In part 1 I also compared the way I responded to having lower self-confidence; very different to how she has responded throughout her entire life. Yes, it comes down to life choices. To build confidence, you perform confidence-building activities, such as:
- Lifting weights
- Losing fat
- Doing cardio
- Meeting new people
- Learning new skills
- Dressing well
- Making more money
- Working hard towards your goals
- Getting laid
You certainly don’t drown in misery, run away from your problems, or moan, bitch and complain. You certainly don’t start telling the opposite gender what they should or shouldn’t like. That’s dumb. Really dumb.
Throwing your hands up in the air and (effectively) saying: “I can’t change, and I won’t change for anyone” is a weak, immature mindset that will make you miserable. As I said in part 1 – play to win, or be depressed. Take your pick, as you cannot have both. You must develop an internal locus of control if you want to win.
Whitney is a perfect example of the opposite. Nothing is her fault. Absolutely nothing. The fact that she’s over 300 pounds(!!!) is everyone else’s fault…..okaaaaaaay ha-ha (chuckle).
Everything Is Society’s Fault…What? You Think This Is My Fault?! HOW DARE YOU!
She’s 300+ pounds. That’s enormous. She attempts to blame this on society: “It was like I was in a social experiment against my own will….forced to parade around in a fat suit”.
If that doesn’t scream insanity, I don’t know what does.
She’s literally in danger of dying (if not soon, then at some point in the future) from severe obesity, not because she’s eaten too much for many, many years. Not because she never goes to the gym. Oh no. There has to be a better explanation. A magical one that absolves all personal responsibility in true, deluded, modern-day-Western-society-style.
Oh no. It isssssssssssssssss……….wait for it………………………….the magical……………………………………………………….
INSULIN RESISTANCE FAIRY!
Wohooooooo! It’s not my fault and there was nothing I could do about being morbidly obese!
My life is now complete. I don’t have to worry about it anymore. I knew it all along. It was the Insulin Resistance Godmother. I KNEW it!
I’ve been an innocent victim of this Insulin Witchcraft the whole time.
Nothing I could do. Society is evil. My genetics hate me. Men hate me and I hate men *cue rant about how the Patriarchal society (including her own Father) made her fat* GRRRRRRRRRRRRR!
Being overweight is your fault. That article coming from an overweight guy, by the way.
Insulin resistance does NOT cause fat gain. Again, the creator of this video is not exactly a lean machine.
Neither of them are lean like I am. I’m simply giving you a few more examples of people who use their prefrontal cortex and a little common sense, rather than being complete slaves to their emotions, and being completely delusional. It’s not about “not understanding the struggle”. Oh, I understand the struggle alright. I’ve struggled for the past eight years. It’s about using your brain, rather than letting your emotions use you.
Insulin does not change the basic laws of energy and thermodynamics. Meaning; it doesn’t create energy (calories) out of nothing. Sure, you may store these calories slightly less favourably than I might, but it doesn’t create calories from nowhere. YOU HAVE TO CONSUME THESE EXCESS CALORIES FOR THEM TO BE STORED IN THE FIRST PLACE.
It’s like saying that gravity doesn’t work for certain people, because they’ve been cursed by the evil Gravity Resistance Fairy. Okay then, go and jump off a building and see if your theory is correct. Or, in fitness terms, go and eat at a calorie deficit every day, weigh your food and track your calories, do cardio every day, and weigh yourself every day. Then we’ll see how Insulin resistant you truly are.
Insulin Resistance is real, don’t get me wrong. But it doesn’t make you 300+ pounds. INSULIN RESISTANCE IS A MODERN-DAY PHENOMENON. THERE WERE NO INSULIN RESISTANT CAVEMEN….AND THERE WERE NO 300 POUND CAVEMEN…..BECAUSE THEY WEREN’T EATING ENOUGH FOOD!!!
Oh stop. I’m crying with laughter (again). Okay, okay, I’ll start being nicer. It’s just the (obvious) delusion and denial is absolutely incredible to witness. It truly is. And it’s actively encouraged by politically-correct medical professionals. These days, you can’t say:
“You’re obese because you eat too much.”
Because these professionals would lose their jobs. Ah, Political Correctness; improving life quality and long-term happiness since day one. That should be its’ slogan.
I just love how people will do everything within their power to place the blame on anything but food. Anything but their consumption of excess calories. Madness. Absolute madness. Just call a spade a spade for heaven’s sake.
“My experiences were always tinged with shame, and left me with an endless desire to be thin, so I could really start my life.”
What you really need, is self-love, which you have realised correctly, is impossible when you’re enormous and unattractive. But you don’t necessarily need to be “thin”. This is where women have my empathy; men can be ugly and incredibly self-confident, but it’s rarely the case for women. It can happen, but it’s less likely to.
To her silly and naive Feminist mind, this is due to a “Patriarchal Society”. It’s not. It’s biology. So there’s no point trying to change it. Men aren’t going to suddenly want to have sex with 300 pound women regardless of how badly she wants it; no more than women will suddenly start dropping their panties for Peter Griffin.
The solution to the self-love conundrum isn’t to be thin, the solution is to make ridiculously good objective and quantifiable progression in:
- Weight loss
- Sex life
- Family life
- Career/money (and no, government checks, payouts, inheritance and other crap doesn’t count – you have to actually work for it, my love, and I know you hate doing real work)
- Other goals she may have
These will give her true empowerment. Becoming thinner, yes, but not necessarily “thin”. There’s more to it than that. But the sad reality is she will never do any of this and she will die young, all because she has the all-too-common external locus of control and victim mentality. Sad.
“The discrimination I faced when living abroad was even worse. Everywhere I went I was called a pig; at the beach, in the street, in the nightclub.”
This is awful, as I said at the start of part 1. Nobody should be verbally abused because of their external appearance. But if this doesn’t motivate you to lose weight, you’re screwed.
And here’s another thing. You should be grateful you’ve got it so easy in our Western society – other cultures are a lot worse and a lot more discriminating. Not saying that this is right – it’s wrong.
But instead of blaming society all the time for your extreme obesity, you should thank your lucky stars you weren’t born into an Asian family. Or Eastern European family. Or just about any other culture on the planet, actually. We live in one of the few society’s on the planet that rewards comfort and laziness. And yes, that’s precisely what Socialism and “Equality” does.
Long-Term Fat Loss Vs Short-Term Fat Loss
After returning to the USA and losing 100 pounds (genuinely, well done!), she says:
“It wasn’t long before I was eating 500-1000 calories per day, and I was throwing up my meal every Friday, which was my cheat day. My eating disorder returned in full force.”
Nope, your eating disorder never left in the first place. Well done on the 100 pounds by the way. But guys, this is why I emphasise the long-term. This is why I always warn you against cutting calories too low and doing “cheat meals” or “cheat days”. It invites inconsistencies and eating disorders. This is the very opposite of what I encourage; a fitness lifestyle.
A FITNESS LIFESTYLE IS LITERALLY YOUR ONLY HOPE OF MAINTAINING WEIGHT LOSS. ANYTHING ELSE THAT ISN’T AN OVERALL LIFESTYLE WILL CAUSE YOU TO RE-BOUND.
Empowered, Or Not?
Being a confident guy myself, I can tell you what confidence is, and is not. Confidence is the belief in your own abilities to overcome the challenge you’re being presented with.
I have a lot of self-confidence.
Now, towards the end of the video, she harps on about becoming “empowered” through her dancing video on YouTube and being asked to participate in interviews on multiple TV shows. This begs the question, “does attention make you confident?”
Possibly. I think it can lead to a temporary inflation of self-worth, but not the true, unshakeable long-term dominance that comes from actual achievement and having actually validating relationships/interactions with valuable people.
Once her temporary attention high has worn off, she will be reminded of the fact that no guy finds her attractive (biology, sorry), she hasn’t actually achieved any meaningful or challenging goals whatsoever, and her self-confidence will plumment, once again, back to its lifetime norm.
I will repeat once again:
THE WAY TO EMPOWER YOURSELF IS NOT TO RAISE YOUR HANDS IN THE AIR AND CLAIM “I’M FAT AND PROUD AND PEOPLE SHOULD LOVE ME ANYWAY“. NO, YOU SET GOALS, INCLUDING FITNESS GOALS, YOU CONQUER, AND YOU ACHIEVE.
That is how to empower yourself.
No need to thank me. Just pay me. Just kidding, kind of.